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Post by jolovespiggies on Mar 30, 2017 14:34:26 GMT
Thank you so much ladies. I have been told by her previous mum that I am not to be gentle with her but handle her as much as possible. She says she is not made of China and all hoggies like to try it on and we have to show them that we are boss. I am to bring her up to my face and give her a nose rub for instance. Things were better last night as Paul didn't bugger of early to bed and leave me with her, so after her time in the pen, she had contact with us both. Yes animals can sense when we are distressed and whilst I am fine once I pick her up, if she starts huffing or being agitated, I do get very stressed. They do try and test us Piggles love but I just wish she were playing but she seems genuinely frightened and that worries me.
I too wish there was someone local Bean hunni but there isn't, not that I know of anyway. Helen really needs to come here and see for herself what is happening but it is such a long way for her and I appreciate that it isn't practical. She had something to eat last night which is good, she ate all her cat food and 10 of the biccies I put in for her. she didn't however touch her salad and fruit. Thanks for your kind words my dear friends, I really appreciate it and I will keep you posted.
Hugs Jo xx
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Post by Bean on Mar 30, 2017 20:16:20 GMT
It sounds like Paul being around really gives you confidence around handling her, and can stop you getting as upset. I suppose if he gets the same response you don't feel it's so personal, and even if he takes her off and she's okay with him, it at least stops you focusing on the fact she's not happy? I hope he stays up with you tonight, and that it's a good session. x
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Post by 3piggles on Mar 30, 2017 21:21:12 GMT
Perhaps getting her out a bit earlier would help, so if Paul wants to go to bed, you've both had your time with her. I do hope she starts to get adjusted, and you start feeling more confident about holding her and showing her who's boss
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Post by jolovespiggies on Mar 31, 2017 7:47:40 GMT
She wasn't too bad last night thank you ladies and she is eating which is something I was worried about. I am definitely holding her with more confidence so I really hope it pays off in the end. Thanks for your interest, it is much appreciated.
Hugs Jo xx
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Post by Bean on Mar 31, 2017 9:21:09 GMT
Ah there are definitely enough good days to give you hope that things will work out, especially given she's not been with you so long so is still settling in. Glad she's nibbling away at her grub too. x
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Post by jolovespiggies on Apr 1, 2017 8:42:02 GMT
I really don't like saying this but was dreadful last night and I don't know what to do about it. Paul wants to persevere with her but I am thinking of Jasmine's happiness too. I don't know what to say to the lady who gave her to us as she has stressed so often that she is a gentle quiet hog who never huffs and that just isn't true of her at the moment. This is a great worry for me.
Hugs Jo xx
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Post by Bean on Apr 1, 2017 10:15:59 GMT
Sorry Jo, it sounds like a rollercoaster for you. Have you spoken to the lady about it, see what she thinks? Is there any chance the smell of other animals around could bother her, or is that not an issue? Hope tonight is a better night - please chat to the lady and just keep trying with Jazzy in the meantime, and focus on the good sessions you've had with her and how there can be more of those if you don't lose your confidence. x
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Post by jolovespiggies on Apr 2, 2017 13:53:53 GMT
Thanks Bean hunny. I want to tell helen about it but Paul wants to carry on as we are. I really don't know what to do as she is probably expecting updates and I cannot lie to her. She will want Jazzie back, that is for sure but Paul at least wants to give it a while longer and says I give up too easily. I don't feel as if I have given up on her but maybe she is picking up on something subconscious. Thanks for your kind concern and help lovey, I really appreciate it. I will keep trying.
Hugs Jo xx
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Post by 3piggles on Apr 2, 2017 16:26:58 GMT
Just reading back through the posts, if you have a good night with them, you are very confident again the next time, and the next time, until you have a bad night with them, and then you totally lose all confidence that you will ever succeed. I think Paul is right to perservere, but I also think you need to stop losing all confidence each time it doesn't go perfectly. Recognizing that you are doing this might help you not do it. Try taking some deep breaths, and being willing to continue with her, or put her back in her cage for a few minutes, then try again. You need to give yourself a break, and stop feeling hopeless when the situation doesn't go perfectly. All animals are different. If she's a calm, easy going girl, and she gets the same confidence from both of you all the time, she will get that calm, easy going way back. If you are either elated or down, she feels that, and doesn't know how to respond. You have to be the rock in this relationship. She's changed homes, changed environments, changed people, and even the most laid back of us has to get used to it all. If she then can't tell what you're going to be feeling from visit to visit, it's hard for her to adjust. Work on your responses to her mood changes, so you can stay feeling positive, instead of showing disappointment. I think she'll be a good addition, if you can keep your feelings in check. Best of luck
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Post by jolovespiggies on Apr 3, 2017 8:47:27 GMT
We are going to take your advice Piggles love and neither of us want to give up on her. A lot does depend on our moods and Paul is always relaxed anyway so it is easier for I am very much a victim to mine. Thanks for your kind words love and i will keep you posted. Hugs Jo xx
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Post by 3piggles on Apr 3, 2017 20:04:31 GMT
Good luck You can do it, especially if you realize what you need to change. I hope you can find a successful way to get yourself relaxed with her, until it really takes with both of you
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Post by jolovespiggies on Apr 4, 2017 13:29:36 GMT
Me too Piggles love, I really hope to get there in the end. She is such a little character and so pretty. Hugs Jo xx
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