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Post by bazookagoof on Sept 8, 2019 4:13:48 GMT
Someone once said the more people brag about their sexual exploits, the less sex they're actually having. I think there's something to that. I always figured it was something between partners, not to brag about on a forum. It's different if it's discussing a problem that might need medical attention, and trying to get some valid information before approaching a doctor. Otherwise, keep it to yourself. I've also heard something similar about military service- the guys who boast about how much action they've seen and how many medals they've won fall apart quickly when people start asking questions that only other experienced military people would recognize. Also, the guys who have seen the most talk about it the least.
As far as the sexual exploits, there are some members I'm inclined to believe; their reputation precedes them and some of their stories seem plausible enough. Others, not so much.
I had a co-worker a few years back who wasn't much to look at. He was dumpy-looking and his personality... well, he always told stories about how many women he'd had, and how women still approach him, and the women in his past not only still pine for him, they've all maintained their girlish figures for the past 25 years in case he ever decides to take any of them back.
After he left, someone else saw him with his girlfriend and they said this guy is full of it- she was uglier than him!
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Post by Bean on Sept 8, 2019 6:52:21 GMT
I always think that the stories people tell you about themselves (whether true or not) tell you about how they want to be thought of and what's important to them.
Many people just give equal weight to things in their lives and don't have a narrative that they force on people in general conversation. But when someone's always telling you about one thing or another, especially stories that they think make them sound good, it just shows their insecurity in that area and how they need you to bolster their ego up by believing their hype.
It's monotonous to listen to though.
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Post by shades on Sept 8, 2019 8:14:16 GMT
I usually buy my almonds, macadamias, and pecans online without any mishap. But this time I really messed up. Normally an order has 3 bags of 146g of whatever nut you choose. For some crazy reason I forgot all about it and ordered four bags of each - well I though it was four bags. This morning I received 12 bags x 3. I must be going nuts
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Post by bazookagoof on Sept 8, 2019 16:19:20 GMT
I always think that the stories people tell you about themselves (whether true or not) tell you about how they want to be thought of and what's important to them. Many people just give equal weight to things in their lives and don't have a narrative that they force on people in general conversation. But when someone's always telling you about one thing or another, especially stories that they think make them sound good, it just shows their insecurity in that area and how they need you to bolster their ego up by believing their hype. There was an Indiana Jones message board I used to frequent many years ago where a member ostensibly in good standing claimed he was highly placed in the industry and was close friends with Harrison Ford and Steven Spielberg. He would constantly spin stories about how he would hang out with them and they considered him to be a valuable resource, given his abilities (he made claims he worked for the government like some sort of low-rent James Bond) and was THE expert on the costuming for the film, primarily the leather jacket.
He would often get into fights with other members and the staff usually took his side for unknown reasons. He flouted the rules of the board and talked dirt about members and vendors. Eventually his lies caught up with him when he started to post "proof" of his exciting life- such as posing with Spielberg, etc. Eventually it got to be too much, and another member who was a Photoshop expert (and psychologist) dismantled this fraud like a pro, showing how fake the pics were, and this charlatan was run off from the board. It was most gratifying to see a bully get his much-deserved comeuppance.
This story was longer and bigger, but I gave you the short version. (Believe me, the long version is LONG!)
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Post by bazookagoof on Sept 8, 2019 16:26:05 GMT
I usually buy my almonds, macadamias, and pecans online without any mishap. But this time I really messed up. Normally an order has 3 bags of 146g of whatever nut you choose. For some crazy reason I forgot all about it and ordered four bags of each - well I though it was four bags. This morning I received 12 bags x 3. I must be going nuts My wife did that once a few years ago when she saw an ad for a hairbrush that said, "buy one, get one free", so she ordered two- and was shocked when she got four in the mail.
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Post by 3piggles on Sept 9, 2019 0:36:59 GMT
Lol 🤗 I think braggards have major self image problems, and have to pretend to be what they think they ought to be, or what they wish they were. They don't think what they really are is good enough.
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Post by bazookagoof on Sept 9, 2019 0:47:35 GMT
Lol 🤗 I think braggards have major self image problems, and have to pretend to be what they think they ought to be, or what they wish they were. They don't think what they really are is good enough. The thing that makes them even more annoying is that they simply cannot let anyone else have their moment in the spotlight. Any perceived notion that someone else might just be equal (or heaven forbid, superior) and they go ballistic.
Most of the cases I've seen (I've seen several, not just the one I mentioned) ended up with the person in question being called out and eventually punished in some form.
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Post by Bean on Sept 9, 2019 7:58:22 GMT
Oh I need nuts, lob us a few bags, Shades!
My mum once rang me to offer me courgettes - she explained that while doing an online supermarket shop, she'd ordered a courgette, but then decided to add another so changed the 1 to a 2. Only she forgot to take out the 1 first, so it turned out she had 12 courgettes! (And because the delivery chap had helped her unpack, she hadn't actually realised the mistake until he left, as she'd have been able to return them.)
She found a bunch of soup and sauce recipes so was making the most of getting through them, and then brought me half a dozen over. I remarked that she'd given me half the stash, and she said no, it wasn't 12 courgettes she'd received, it was 12 packs of 3 courgettes. She had 36! They love their vegetables anyway, so they all got used up.
I hope you've got some spare cupboard space, Shades!
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Post by 3piggles on Sept 9, 2019 21:07:38 GMT
That's the only problem with online shopping. We can't see what we're buying but looking in our shopping cart. I've almost forgotten to change the number of items wanted, but have been lucky, so far. Hubby is one for thinking, if something is 2 for $5, he has to buy two. No, that means they're $2.50 each, and one is just fine. I hope you have storage space for all the nuts, Shades Baz, I know what you mean. It's as if they need a spotlight on them, even if everything about them is fake, and they just can't stand to be upstages I think those people fall hardest, when they're finally found out
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Post by bazookagoof on Sept 9, 2019 23:12:05 GMT
Baz, I know what you mean. It's as if they need a spotlight on them, even if everything about them is fake, and they just can't stand to be upstages I think those people fall hardest, when they're finally found out On another rival board mostly populated by former members the bully had run off there was a thread devoted to recording the progress of his downfall- it was 68 pages long! If you had been one of the aggrieved parties, it was an entertaining read. I actually had no personal beef with the guy, but seeing someone elevated to a high position all based on lies is not something I could stomach. (Take tRump, for example.)
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Post by 3piggles on Sept 10, 2019 19:48:30 GMT
I totally understand that. As much as I hate tRump, and I do hate him, I really don't want to listen to the endless litany of complaints against him. Whenever he gets voted out of the white house, there will be a lot of celebrating his downfall, as I think all democrats will consider ending the hate regime of the republicans as a coup more than an election. I don't plan to celebrate with endless pictures of him doing and saying stupid things. Just looking at him makes me queasy.
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Post by Bean on Sept 13, 2019 16:09:52 GMT
Well, for the first time Trump has done something that hasn't just made me think he's a complete idiot. I hear he's trying to ban the sale of flavoured e-cigarettes in the US after vaping has been linked to some deaths and many cases respiratory illness.
The flavoured ones do smell like sweets and it's contributing to loads of people, but especially young kids, who have never even smoked using them, when really they were designed as an aid to quit smoking. They are of course less harmful than cigarettes, so probably have a place in smoking cessation therapy (as long as the risks aren't loads worse than was initially thought), but I'm always surprised by how many people are just attracted to vaping and don't seem to think it could potentially be harmful to inhale loads of chemicals and nicotine.
Good move I think. But it's a long way short of making up for everything else he does of course!
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Post by bazookagoof on Sept 13, 2019 21:20:01 GMT
Well, for the first time Trump has done something that hasn't just made me think he's a complete idiot. I hear he's trying to ban the sale of flavoured e-cigarettes in the US after vaping has been linked to some deaths and many cases respiratory illness. The flavoured ones do smell like sweets and it's contributing to loads of people, but especially young kids, who have never even smoked using them, when really they were designed as an aid to quit smoking. They are of course less harmful than cigarettes, so probably have a place in smoking cessation therapy (as long as the risks aren't loads worse than was initially thought), but I'm always surprised by how many people are just attracted to vaping and don't seem to think it could potentially be harmful to inhale loads of chemicals and nicotine. Good move I think. But it's a long way short of making up for everything else he does of course! Actually, this is not a philanthropic move on his part- the e-cigarettes are competition for Big Tobacco, and tRump is firmly in their pocket. So, they give him money and he bans their competition, because he's for sale.
(He's never done a good thing in his life.)
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Post by 3piggles on Sept 14, 2019 0:06:38 GMT
The worst part of him doing anything good, even if for evil reasons, is it's a chance for his supporters to say "See, told you so!" There's a movement in cities and states across the country to stop students from vaping. This will help, if it's not blocked by the courts for some reason. The other problem is that vapes come in so many shapes and sizes, it's hard for school admins to know what is and what isn't a vape. They look like pens, cell phones, and a whole lot of other things. Hubby said he once thought a coworker had forgotten his pen when, but the coworker said it was his vape. Hubby said it looked exactly like a pen.
So there's a long way to go, and I doubt stopping flavored vapes will help much, but it's a good start!
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Post by bazookagoof on Sept 14, 2019 1:02:29 GMT
The worst part of him doing anything good, even if for evil reasons, is it's a chance for his supporters to say "See, told you so!" There's a movement in cities and states across the country to stop students from vaping. This will help, if it's not blocked by the courts for some reason. The other problem is that vapes come in so many shapes and sizes, it's hard for school admins to know what is and what isn't a vape. They look like pens, cell phones, and a whole lot of other things. Hubby said he once thought a coworker had forgotten his pen when, but the coworker said it was his vape. Hubby said it looked exactly like a pen. So there's a long way to go, and I doubt stopping flavored vapes will help much, but it's a good start! I have two co-workers that share a vape at work. My boss was using one, but switched back to cigarettes. He's trying to quit again, and he said vaping isn't going to help.
I have little interest in either. My older brother uses them; he was a cigarette smoker for years.
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Post by Bean on Sept 14, 2019 7:10:31 GMT
Oh I hadn't thought of it as simply being a move to stop competition for the tobacco industry (because that never kills anyone...). Of course. *hits head on table*
I really would like to see vaping fall out of fashion though, and just to be a smoking cessation aid. Making it seem so attractive in itself with all the funky gadgets and extraordinary flavours just isn't necessary for that.
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Post by 3piggles on Sept 14, 2019 23:19:07 GMT
The tobacco industry is in the bible belt states, where his staunchest supporters live. Worst part is, it won't help the tobacco industry. Most people who vape started because they were told it was a healthy alternative to smoking. It's not, but they believed it was. I doubt they'll go back to cigs, just because they can't get flavored vapes. Kids really like the flavored vapes, so it should help with that group, especially since cigs are so hard for kids to get.
One problem with getting kids to stop smoking or vaping has always been that they had parents or older siblings who did it, so they not only emulated those they watched and admired, but could steal from those who legally had cigs or vapes in the house. That won't stop by restricting flavors, making customers have to prove they're 21, or anything else they do, as long as the product is readily available at home. That might force students back to smoking cigs, as they can easily nick a couple from an open pack, and no one's the wiser. That was harder with vaping.
Ultimately, we need to determine why people need to smoke, and try to fix that aspect of life. Not happening in my lifetime!
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Post by bazookagoof on Sept 18, 2019 23:12:20 GMT
Oh I hadn't thought of it as simply being a move to stop competition for the tobacco industry (because that never kills anyone...). Of course. *hits head on table* Don't worry, Bean- you're still tops in my book. (unlike tRump.)
My younger brother used to smoke cigarettes. Actually, both my parents have admitted to smoking, but they both quit back in the early to mid 60's when they wanted to start a family. My younger brother did likewise; he quit cold turkey once his daughter was born.
I've had one cigarette in my life, and I hated it. It left my mouth tasting like an ashtray.
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Post by 3piggles on Sept 19, 2019 20:50:54 GMT
My parents quit in the 40s, after a night of too much drinking and smoking. They woke up the next morning, and decided to change their ways. I didn't start smoking until I was in my 20s, stopped when I got pregnant with my daughter, but resumed once she was born. I really didn't think about the amount of second hand smoke in the house and car. There are laws now, I think in this state, banning smoking in cars containing minor children. It's a useless law, like forcing people to wear seat belts. Legally, the police can't stop anyone for smoking in a car full of children, or for not belting in their children. The police can only enforce those laws on people they've stopped for other reasons. So I don't see that changing. After all, people who fill a house full of smoke aren't going to stop smoking in the car. Having their children there isn't important to them.
I quit in 2000. I got tired of not being able to smoke anywhere in public, which has gotten even worse, now. I got hypnosis, but otherwise quit cold turkey. I have friends struggling to quit, now. They're taking Chantix, and it makes them sick, as Chantix does. To then not quit smoking after taking meds that make them sick just seems like such a mistake to me. Still, it's their life, not mine.
Yes, I've had ashtray mouth before, and know what it's like!
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Post by bazookagoof on Sept 20, 2019 1:09:35 GMT
Yes, I've had ashtray mouth before, and know what it's like! What happened was that I was working for a film & video production company, and they were doing a photographic shoot for Zenith TV- the shot involved a TV set that had smoke drifting out of the speaker on its side. The director didn't want a whole lot of smoke, he just wanted a small cloud or stream. They determined that a cigarette would do the trick nicely, and they asked one of the women in the office who smoked like a dragon to help out with the shot.
Unfortunately the preparations for the shoot ran well past 5:00pm, and the woman cleared out at 5:01- so they handed me a Zippo and a cig and said go to work. I managed not to inhale, but man, I hated the experience. Also, the convenience store on the first floor also closed, so I couldn't go down and buy something to wash out that horrid taste out of my mouth!
Nowadays, we would just digitally insert the smoke into the shot, with no one needing to destroy their lungs for art.
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