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Post by 3piggles on Jun 19, 2022 21:16:11 GMT
HAPPY FATHER'S DAY
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Post by Bean on Jun 20, 2022 6:12:15 GMT
Oh yes, happy fathers' day! I did my bit and had mine over for a roast dinner - a good excuse for a nice lunch!
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Post by 3piggles on Jun 20, 2022 19:55:18 GMT
Unfortunately, hubby never heard anything from daughter I thought she'd at least text him.
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Post by bazookagoof on Jun 20, 2022 23:24:51 GMT
Unfortunately, hubby never heard anything from daughter I thought she'd at least text him. I had a similar treatment- my daughter went to a 3 day music fest over the weekend instead of giving me one day. Also, Sunday was my father's birthday, so it made the occasion a little less grand.
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Post by Bean on Jun 21, 2022 7:26:17 GMT
I'm sorry you've both had some disappointment from your daughters. I have to say, I never hold much stock in these days anyway, it's how someone treats you all year round that matters. Maybe sometimes that's not much better though!
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Post by 3piggles on Jun 21, 2022 13:16:42 GMT
Sorry you got overlooked, Baz It isn't really about the day itself, but about the gesture of taking just one day to show dad you care. We never did much with my parents for Mother's and Father's days, but we did do gifts, and maybe had a meal together. Even after my parents moved to San Francisco, I called every Mother's and Father's day. That's how we always did it. My sister wasn't great at remembering or observing those days, but at least I was. Granted, I don't know if my mother appreciated it or felt entitled to it. Either way, just take the time to at least text the person, and daughter didn't even bother to do that I don't think it bothered hubby as much as it bothers me. It's as if, now that she has her own family, we don't matter much anymore. I really want her to be happy, but I wish she'd just take that few minutes to bother. Vicki could have texted, too. She probably got into what she and her friends were doing, and didn't even think of it.
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Post by bazookagoof on Jun 21, 2022 23:43:40 GMT
To be fair, I had Vicki drive herself over to my dad's and wish him a happy birthday in person. She hadn't told my parents that she'd just gotten her license, so this made it a special treat for her to show up unannounced and unaccompanied by her own parents.
I'm less interested in my own celebration and more invested in my dad's, since he's got a birthday AND Father's Day, and also because I don't know how many more of these he has left, so it's essential I make the most of the time I have with him. (He turned 82.)
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Post by Bean on Jun 22, 2022 6:09:58 GMT
I bet your parents got a kick from your daughter turning up on her own in the car! It sounds like she's making the most of having her license and feeling confident driving.
I think it's lovely that even though you don't place much importance on these sorts of dates for yourself, you want other people to feel great. I bet your dad had a lovely day.
Your husband probably has the right idea, 3piggles - you know how your daughter is, don't set yourself up to be disappointed by still half expecting something. When it's mothers' day you could always text 'Thanks!' and when she replies saying 'What?' say 'Oh sorry, I thought you wished me a happy mothers' day!'. But I suppose it depends on the humour in your family as to whether that'd be funny or annoying - I'd definitely do it to my son though!
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Post by 3piggles on Jun 22, 2022 17:51:42 GMT
While we are only in our 70s, and not our 80s, we never know how much time we have left. I think of a text wishing a happy mothers or fathers day as a way of her saying she remembers we even exist. I do let it get me down, and I have to work on that. I'm not sure it didn't get Vic down a bit, but he's good at not showing those things. So since she doesn't bother, I always try too hard to make up for her lack of interest. It always costs me a lot of money. I bought him a new grilling utensil set, even though he's not my father. Then we went to the big box home and garden store, saw the perfect work bench, and yes, I agreed he could get that. It will open up a lot of space in the shed, as the current work bench he has is way too big, too deep. This one is longer but much less deep, and hopefully I can ride him until he gets the shed sorted out decently, and makes the most of the new work bench. It would be so much less expensive if she'd just wish him a happy father's day
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Post by Bean on Jun 23, 2022 6:36:55 GMT
You should ask him how he feels about it; maybe he's not really interested in fathers' day so doesn't mind her forgetting, maybe he enjoys the fuss from you more than a text from your daughter, or maybe seeing you desperately trying to compensate for her makes him more aware she's not remembered him. Of course if he says he likes the special attention from you, that's it, you'll have to keep doing it!
Sounds like you had a really nice day anyway!
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Post by 3piggles on Jun 23, 2022 18:57:53 GMT
I think he'd say what he thought I wanted to hear. I don't go nuts making up for it, but I do feel I have to get him something to show him at least I remember. It's also a day for the good foods he likes, his choice, of course, like his birthday. He likes that.
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