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Post by jolovespiggies on Jul 16, 2015 18:37:24 GMT
That is it exactly it Piggles love, I hate having to rely on other people to do jobs I used to be able to do myself and a to a much better standard. Yes, in future I will watch what he takes to the tip as I did yesterday and it is totally cleared. I think you have something there Bean, it would be really interesting to get them all together in a room with a few drinks and be a fly on the wall LOL!! In the past Paul has had flurries or spurts as I call them but he hasn't had one for ages which is why I have had to keep on at him. It is frustrating not being able to do these things myself love you are right. Kids and messes go together but I am glad they help you too LOL!
Hugs JO xx
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Post by 3piggles on Jul 16, 2015 19:00:17 GMT
Hubby has spurts, too. I've noticed his spurts don't last as long as they used to. He does try though,and if I supervise, he'll get the job done. My supervising has changed from organiser to cheer leader, but it works.
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Post by jolovespiggies on Jul 17, 2015 17:57:28 GMT
Ha ha, cheer leader, I love that Piggles hunny. I wouldn't mind Paul doing a bit at a time if only he did it, I always have to prompt him.
Hugs JO xx
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Post by 3piggles on Jul 17, 2015 20:38:49 GMT
I've found sneaky ways to get hubby to schedule the work. Maybe have him set out the things he'll need for the job, the night before. Next morning, it's there where he can't ignore it. Or schedule some nice interlude for when the job is done, maybe his favorite refreshing drink or snack, and keep those things for only when he completes what he set out to do.
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Post by jolovespiggies on Jul 18, 2015 18:27:02 GMT
That is a great idea Piggles love, I will bear that in mind, it is like coaxing a child isn't it LOL!!
Hugs JO xx
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Post by 3piggles on Jul 19, 2015 19:52:02 GMT
Yes, Jo, it is Some men are totally self motivated, self organizing, etc. Many aren't, and neither of us has a hubby who is. The other tactic I use is to start doing the job myself, even though I can't. Then he sees me struggling to do what he should have done, and insists on taking over for me. As long as he gets the jobs done, I'm okay with a bit of underhandedness
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Post by Bean on Jul 20, 2015 15:20:54 GMT
Haha! Like it, and will definitely keep it in mind as we approach some home improvements!
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Post by 3piggles on Jul 20, 2015 15:47:33 GMT
Nothing works worse than keeping after them
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Post by jolovespiggies on Jul 20, 2015 18:45:57 GMT
Ha ha, that is a great one piggles although Paul would let me carry on unless I asked him to help me - bugger!!! My ex was worse, the complete opposite and a pain in the a... He was always doing something but expected me to also, I have had the chance of a rest.
Hugs JO xx
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Post by 3piggles on Jul 21, 2015 20:03:19 GMT
I think guilt gets to them, as they know they were supposed to do that job, and now we are doing it and struggling. Hubby will do his 'you're doing it all wrong, let me do it' routine, so he doesn't have to admit he didn't bother to do and drove me to it
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Post by Bean on Jul 22, 2015 9:06:24 GMT
Well, we're making movements in the direction of starting to sort out the kids swapping bedrooms and redecorating as we go. Fella's already grumbling and all we've done is buy paint, so wish me luck! We're hoping to get started at the end of the week.
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Post by jolovespiggies on Jul 22, 2015 18:07:16 GMT
Don't think guilt bothers Paul Piggles love, he has this marvellous ability of pretending something is or is not happening if it suits him. Good luck Bean hunny, if the moaning has started already. Hugs Jo xx
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Post by Bean on Jul 23, 2015 5:48:40 GMT
Well, I have to eat my words - I went out to a graduation ceremony yesterday afternoon and left fella with the paint pots, the kids and a face liked a smacked bottom! Came back in the evening to one almost finished bedroom and two children who had not only been fed, but a tidy kitchen too. Thought I'd walked into the wrong house!
Wonder what we'll get done today?!
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Post by jolovespiggies on Jul 23, 2015 18:49:39 GMT
Ha hah ha hhaa, I am so pleased for you piggles love. If Paul did something like that I think I would have to go for a lie down LOL!! Let's hope it wasn't just a one off!
Hugs Jo xx
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Post by 3piggles on Jul 23, 2015 19:17:45 GMT
Ooh, excellent Bean He just has to do it on his terms Glad the kids are okay with changing rooms, and fella got into the swing of it all. I'll keep my fingers crossed, anyway
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Post by Bean on Jul 24, 2015 7:30:51 GMT
Usually if I go out and leave him to it, I come back and find him in the same position as I left him, almost always watching a music documentary. Not sure if this was just a one off or a sign of things to come?!
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Post by jolovespiggies on Jul 24, 2015 18:48:44 GMT
Let's hope it is the latter love. Paul is always pointing out council workers just sitting in their vans having tea and I often say yes, it reminds me of someone LOL!!
Hugs JO xx
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Post by 3piggles on Jul 24, 2015 20:57:01 GMT
I totally understand what Paul's saying. It's annoying that he doesn't get jobs done, but at least he's not being paid to do something he's not doing. Our grounds maintenance crew is very hard working, but the city and state crews seem to have more breaks than work time! Hubby gets sidetracked easily, too, Bean. I would come home and find him right where I left him. He's gotten a lot better, but he has a lot of years on Si. Maybe Si will get better with age, too
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Post by jolovespiggies on Jul 25, 2015 18:38:11 GMT
Up to a point he is though Piggles love, he does receive an allowance for being my carer. Not a lot admittedly but it is called a Carer's Allowance.
Hugs Jo xx
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Post by 3piggles on Jul 25, 2015 19:53:26 GMT
I think that would be considered a stipend, Jo, not a wage. The council workers are receiving an actual wage, and not doing the job. It's nice that there is a care givers stipend in the UK. We don't have anything like that in the US. Most people have to give up their jobs or hire outside help, and just lose the money. Some places have special assistance paid for by the city, but I don't think it's a regular thing. In San Francisco, my father got Taxi Script, basically a card to pay for taxi rides, because he was too immobile to board a bus. He tried it a couple of times, and fell backward both times. Luckily the passengers waiting to board behind him caught him. His doctor had to enter him into the program, and it was great for him to be able to afford to take taxis when he needed to go someplace. My parents said the west coast people are much nicer, more considerate and more helpful than the east coast people. Doesn't say much for us on the east coast!
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